Step 1: Decide where to begin

Realistically, you can’t tackle everything at once, so try and prioritise.
 
Make a list of the behaviour which concerns you, and decide which to focus on first.

Think about:

• Whether it causes harm to the child or others
• Whether it stops the child or others from learning
• Whether it make it difficult to get around safely
• How often it occurs
• Who it affects

"I know that he finds things difficult and that he needs to get his anger out but I am concerned that if he hit a child with the same force as he hit me then he'd cause real damage.  My other concern is that when he gets angry if he can't hit someone else he often hits himself or gouges  his eyes which obviously I don't want - as long term the idea of self harming is more scary than the thought of him hitting me." (Parent)