I know you posted this while ago but I have just found it!!!
Homework has been a bone of contention in this house for both of my sons. They seem to class it as school work and not something they should be doing at home, no matter how I try to explain the reason for it to them. Also when I eventually get them to try to do it, if they come up against a difficulty they wont let me help them because "you are not a teacher".
My youngest also has had severe anger issues (which I have to say have lessened in volume over the years, but not intensity unfortunately) and I can quite clearly see that he is building up his frustrations from school and taking them out on us at home (of course, the school disagrees with this). I am convinced that Tom can definitely control where and with whom he has his meltdowns, but he seems unable to find another way to resolve the root of the problem despite having had numerous interventions (although all his interventions did stop about 3 years ago). He has displayed his anger mostly in the house, but has had a couple of episodes with the respite care team.
If you ever find a solution to the homework issue please do come back and tell us about it.
Josie - CommunityChampion
Posted by elastigirl
on 31st March 2010
at 10:42
Jack does his homework but only when I have done all the ground work. He has had enough of work by the time he gets home. He leaves it to the very last possible minute and then it is all rushed. Normally He can spell well but makes many errors in his work.His writing is not neat at all but does not want to tidy it up as this would slow him down.Today we have geography and I will need to get out the relevent books and then put his book and pen in front of him.If I start early enough I can try to install some information before he starts the writing but I know he will resist.
I am sure it is an anxiety issue as when I am anxious I cannot think straight and make errors. I try to put myself in his shoes. If the atmosphere is positive then I am sure he will work with less haste and errors.I praise him up when he makes decisions for himself to encourage him.
I dont think he will ever get over his need to win or came first. I think it is a self esteem issue but the word control has been mentioned and control is a big issue for autistic people isnt it?
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Posted by
Josie Barnshaw
on 30th March 2010
at 16:05
Hi Elizabeth
I know you posted this while ago but I have just found it!!!
Homework has been a bone of contention in this house for both of my sons. They seem to class it as school work and not something they should be doing at home, no matter how I try to explain the reason for it to them. Also when I eventually get them to try to do it, if they come up against a difficulty they wont let me help them because "you are not a teacher".
My youngest also has had severe anger issues (which I have to say have lessened in volume over the years, but not intensity unfortunately) and I can quite clearly see that he is building up his frustrations from school and taking them out on us at home (of course, the school disagrees with this). I am convinced that Tom can definitely control where and with whom he has his meltdowns, but he seems unable to find another way to resolve the root of the problem despite having had numerous interventions (although all his interventions did stop about 3 years ago). He has displayed his anger mostly in the house, but has had a couple of episodes with the respite care team.
If you ever find a solution to the homework issue please do come back and tell us about it.
Josie - Community Champion
Posted by
elastigirl
on 31st March 2010
at 10:42
Jack does his homework but only when I have done all the ground work. He has had enough of work by the time he gets home. He leaves it to the very last possible minute and then it is all rushed. Normally He can spell well but makes many errors in his work.His writing is not neat at all but does not want to tidy it up as this would slow him down.Today we have geography and I will need to get out the relevent books and then put his book and pen in front of him.If I start early enough I can try to install some information before he starts the writing but I know he will resist.
I am sure it is an anxiety issue as when I am anxious I cannot think straight and make errors. I try to put myself in his shoes. If the atmosphere is positive then I am sure he will work with less haste and errors.I praise him up when he makes decisions for himself to encourage him.
I dont think he will ever get over his need to win or came first. I think it is a self esteem issue but the word control has been mentioned and control is a big issue for autistic people isnt it?
Regards
Elizabeth