Need a little help please?

Hi

Me again ( sorry ) im being very high maintence atm

Had a MAJOR melt down on Tuesday just gone, and it scared me silly.

Ive come to the decision that i think that maybe it is worth getting myself properly diagnosed , But ive not a clue how to do it.

My wife is brilliant , but has enough to deal with me and the kids :p let alone anything more, so im going to try and do this myself, with the help of you guys if possible?

So, how do i start the ball running, is it just phoning the Doc and saying hey i think ..... , btw, i am already on their books as OCD anyway if thats a starting point?

Anyway, thanks for letting me bend your ears :p

 

Adrian x 

Hi 

I have only gone down the route for my children but it definately started with an appointment to the GP and a referral. Hopefully some of the others will be able to offer you more constructive advice when they see your post :)

I think I can speak for everyone when I say there really is no need to apologise, everyone on here knows how important support and advice is .  

Leanne - Community Champion

Hello Adrian,

I was diagnosed last year + it took quite a lot of time and effort.  My first GP told me that I 'obviously had an IQ above 70 and wouldn't qualify as having a learning disability'!  I went to a different GP, but only after getting a local paediatrician who had met me to phone them up + I got an informal assessment from the Kent Autistic Trust and they sent a letter to my GP as well.  My GP finally made a referral to the Maudesley hospital in London (which had a six month waiting list).

ASD diagnosis is part of the 'tertiary' sector of health care and thus you need to be referred to it by a GP (who often have little knowledge of it).  The first stop is your GP, yet if you hit a brick wall, you may need help from charities etc. - the government has claimed that they are going to improve the situation on adult diagnosis, yet I think it will take time!

When I was diagnosed, they also tested for ADHD, OCD, etc. - I doubt that it would make much difference if you hit the criteria for ASD - although local GP's may not realise that people can have co-morbidity etc. - I have heard of people who were diagnosed as one thing and then were refused a diagnosis of anything else.

Good luck with it all!

Damian

Thanks for the replies, i'll attempt to get the ball rolling 

 

Adrian 

ok, got the ball running on this, had to write a letter to Doctor ( apparently i broke his heart when he read it! )

So now im being referred to whom ever , Funny thing was, when i was done seeing the Doc, he said, you know what, id always thought you where autistic, and now after seeing you today ( and reading my A4 letter ) everything makes more sense 

 Heh! hope this referring goes ok, and soon too, been 2 weeks now , mind you only just got back from a two week holiday

 

Adrian 

Hi,

Well done for doing that, I am not sure how I feel about the doctors response - shouldn't he have been more proactive in diagnosing you :) 

Hope you don't have much longer to wait to hear what the next step will be , please keep us posted. 

Leanne - Community Champion

Yes, please do keep us posted!

And good for you, I'm glad you are being referred. : )

Well done, Adrian.

Asking my GP for a diagnosis was very difficult. I wish he'd responded in the same way as yours instead of laughing. Will be interesting to find out more about the diagnostic process here in the West Country :)

Asteroids Sara - Community Champion

Well basically i wrote him a letter ( as face to face convo's i forget to mention key points ... )

Copy of letter

<cite> Dear Doctor ******* 

I'm writing this letter asking you to refer me to somewhere that can help with my ( I've had unofficial tests ) autism.

Already on my medical data is my condition of OCD and dyslexia , and I've been aware of my autism for a long time, but have coped as best as I could with it, some days are just too much though, and I do certainly rely on Hilary on most days for something.

 

However of late, I've been having more and more problems coping with all that goes with the condition, one of which is noise and I seem to end up hearing/ listening to 5+ things all at the same time ( so it feels ) and even background noises, electrical items that others can not hear, I simply can not get them out of my head, which eventually results in a migraine.

I've been to a autism  meeting, and had talked to at length to other suffers , and it's got to the point now that I do need a diagnostics of this , so that 

  1. I can get access to the help I need from time to time and 
  2. Will / may take the considerable load away from my wife, as she now has to deal with 2 of our autistic kids ( which I now blame myself for! )

So in a nut shell, this is asking you to get the ball running for me, and to get me referred to whom ever would be able to help.

Needless to say this letter itself has taken me awhile to write, as I've always tried to cope by myself, and I guess did not really want to admit to being autistic , which is why it's been a bit late in the day getting something off to you, I do hope you are able to help.

Please note I'm away on holiday from 21st august to 4th sept

 

Kind regards

 

Adrian Moore  <cite>

 

Seem to do the trick, as he had be alittle dismissive  

It's a shame he wasn't more attentive earlier on, but well done on this letter and catching his attention!

It can be difficult for GPs. To be fair, a lot of people have undiagnosed autism and cope very well. He might have thought you were managing and that a diagnosis would only hinder things. My dad was a GP and never mentioned autism until I told him I had Asperger Syndrome (just a few years ago). He then asked me if I thought he had it too and we had a long conversation about Kanner, Asperger, Lorna Wing etc. He certainly knew his stuff and I still wonder if he knew I had AS but chose to ignore it.

Adrian, I'll be interested to know what help/support is offered. When I did my talk, I think I explained about the social skills group I was offered (lol).

Asteroids Sara - Community Champion